Looking at you falling asleep.
It's a form of pleasure.

=)

Hey Love,
Have a drink when you are thirsty.
Take a nap when you are tired.
Relax when your shoulder are tight.
Have a bite when you should.
Cry if you must and smile when you can,
Call me if you need a hug.


I may not be able to provide you with solutions,
neither can I solve your doubts.
But I can be here.
I can be here to buy you a drink...
Sing you a lullaby, massage your aching shoulders...
Cook you some home cooked food,
Lend you my shoulder to cry and make funny faces to make you smile.
And most of all,
I'll be here if you need a hug.


This is life and it's challenges.
God have chosen you of everyone else to complete that tough task that is in front of you right now.
He chose you instead of anyone else.
Why?
Because you can do it and you will prove him and people right.
He is proud of you and always will be.
Me too.

=)

1. 'Be kinder than necessary because everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.'
2. A sharp tongue can cut your own throat.
3. If you want your dreams to come true, you mustn't oversleep.
4. Of all the things you wear, your expression is the most important
5. The best vitamin for making friends..... B1.
6. The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts.
7. The heaviest thing you can carry is a grudge..
8. One thing you can give and still keep...is your word.
9. You lie the loudest when you lie to yourself.
10. If you lack the courage to start, you have already finished.
11. One thing you can't recycle is wasted time.
12. Ideas won't work unless 'you' do.
13. Your mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open.
14. Your mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open.
15. The pursuit of happiness is the chase of a lifetime! It is never too late to become what you might have been.
16. Life is too short to wake up with regrets. So love the people who treat you right. Forget about the one's who don't.
17. Believe everything happens for a reason. If you get a second chance, grab it with both hands. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it.
18. Friends are like balloons; once you let them go, you might not get them back. Sometimes we get so busy with our own lives and problems that we may not even notice that we've let them fly away. Sometimes we are so caught up in who's right and who's wrong that we forget what's right and wrong.

Think about it. Thanks for sending it to me.
You are a friend I'm keeping, for sure. =)

轻轻的音乐在耳畔响起，总是淡淡的忧伤。

我知道，忧伤的，有时候，并不是音乐。令人忧伤的，是那些无端的却又无法回避的真实。在所有的真实里面，我们都无法逃避。所有的退路都被一点一滴的现实填充了。

我，想做个小孩，一个单纯的小孩。

可以在所有人的面前真实地做自己。开心地笑，悲伤地哭。没有理由地大吵大闹。可以为了一支棒棒糖就流着眼泪，

可以因为看到一只流浪的小狗就蹲在马路边伤心，也可以因为心爱的花凋谢了就难过地窝在妈妈的怀抱里。

我，想做个小孩。一个有人宠

Saw this... And it set me thinking...

Changing your thoughts can change your emotions.

We all engage in what CBT practitioners call ‘thought distortions’ (also called ’stinking thinking’). Someone at work looks at us strangely and we think ‘They don’t like me’. We don’t get a job we’re up for and we think ‘I’m a failure’. We decide to not attend a social function because, ‘I won’t like anyone there. I won’t have any fun”. We get lots of compliments on our new haircut but we focus exclusively on the one person who didn’t like it.

Thoughts such as these don’t reflect reality. They represent our world as seen through a gloom-colored lens. The reality is that by talking-back to these distorted thoughts, you can improve your mood and begin making healthier decisions.

There are many reasons why we may practice this distorted thinking. We may be tired or hungry. We might be suffering from depression, and our brain may not be producing or utilizing serotonin or dopamine correctly. We may be experiencing the effects of depressants such as alcohol or crashing from stimulants like caffeine, cigarettes or amphetamines. Normal hormonal shifts in our monthly cycles (men too!) may also affect our thought processes.

So what’s a stinky-thinker to do? First, we must realize the truth that our thoughts do not always reflect reality. That’s hard to do as we’re accustomed to relying on our brain to give us valuable information about our environment. We’re used to seeing a table and having our brain tell us ‘there is a table’, thus preventing us from bruising ourselves as we walk across a room. But when it comes to more subjective information, it is good to question our first impressions.

Once we’ve accepted that our thoughts are often distorted, we next can begin to identify when we are practicing thought distortions. A good way to do this is to catch yourself in a bad mood. When you’re feeling sad, angry, lonely, depressed, or anxious grab a pen & paper and write some of your thoughts down. Try to get to the heart of why you’re feeling badly.

Next, start with one of the thoughts you’ve written down and ‘talk-back’ to the thought distortion. That means you compare your thought to the likely reality of the situation. This can be difficult to do if you are feeling ’stuck’ in a mood. Sometimes it’s easier to think about what you would say to cheer up a friend who was having a rough day. Here’s some examples.

Distorted Thought - ‘I’ll never get a job I like.’
Talk-back - ‘I’m disappointed because I didn’t get this particular job but I know there are many jobs out there and it’s likely that I’ll find one that makes me happy. I just need to be patient with the process.’

Distorted Thought - ‘I know if I go to this party I won’t have a good time.’
Talk-back - ‘I might have a good time and I might not. I certainly won’t know if I don’t go and I certainly won’t have a good time if I go in with a negative attitude. Sure it’s hard to get out there but the reality is that I often have fun once I get out.’

If you find that you’re having trouble talking-back, then ask a positive friend or your therapist to help you. Sometimes a more subjective perspective can be invaluable!

Here’s a link to a list of common thought distortions to help you see some of the ways our brains can distort our vision of reality.

Happy Thinking!

• If you're mad with someone and nobody's there to fix the situation... You fix it. Maybe today, that person still wants to be your friend. And if you don't, tomorrow can be too late.
  
  
• If you're in love with somebody, but that person doesn't know... Tell her/him. Maybe today, that person is also in love with you. And if you don't say it, tomorrow can be too late.
  
  
• If you still love a person that you think has forgotten you... Tell her/him. Maybe that person has always loved you. And if you don't tell her/him today, tomorrow can be too late.
  
  
• If you need a hug of a friend.... Ask her/him for it. Maybe they need it more than you do. And if you don't ask for it today, tomorrow can be too late.
  
  
• If you really have friends who you appreciate... Tell them. Maybe they appreciate you as well. And if you don't and they might leave or go far away today, tomorrow can be too late.
  
  
• If you love your parents, and never had the chance to show them... do it. Maybe you have them there to show them how you feel. That if you don't and they leave today, and then tomorrow can be too late.

Maybe I should...